Express Yourself

We often hear that our appearance matters the most and we need to look good as per people's expectations but my question is Is this really necessary? Our bodies belong to us and we choose to decide for ourselves, but why can't people accept us the way we are? Why do they always want us to look better even if we are better in our own eyes? The constant criticism towards the ones who are too healthy or too skinny and people always has some unwanted advise to offer as to "please eat less or go on a diet because you are too fat or you need to look like him or her, start your fitness class or start going to gym to burn some fat" or something like this ''oh my good you're so skinny, you will definitely die due to your eating disorder, stop dieting and eat plenty of good food, eat this and that!'' I mean come on fellas! stop making that person feel so insecure about themselves and why do you discourage them just because they don't look ''...

Yes it's been a while since I wrote something for you guys, I apologize for the delay because I wanted to take some time off from a lot of things but I'm back now and I hope to keep writing for you on a regular base. So a very good friend of mine asked me last night that why wasn't I writing anything new so I asked her what she wanted me to write on this time and she came up with a very good topic that is Inner Peace and Inner Beauty. My question to every reader is what does Inner Beauty and Inner Peace mean to you? If you ask me, I would say that these two are inter related because there is beauty in everything and there is beauty in peace. Inner Peace is all about staying calm even when there is a battle between your thoughts and your mind is going bananas over certain things but deep down you know that panicking and losing your sanity will only make things worse for you. To be very honest, I'm not a pro with all these mushy gushy emotions. Yes they are very exha...

Dear You, Here I am writing a letter to you because today I feel that I need to do this in order to make you aware of the things you have done and the things you are doing. This is for you to know that the mess you made in your past and the mess you are about to make because you do not have a choice at the moment, please do not repeat the things you did which landed you in a huge mess that literally drove you insane for days, weeks and months. You will not trust people who make promises just to win your heart in order to make you happy for a short period of time. The last time you trusted a person like this made you feel so vulnerable that you almost gave up on everything else. These people only know how to give false promises but will never keep them because they themselves do not know what the heck they are doing. They are not capable of healing you and if they say that they can heal you then let me tell you that it's just a Bullshit statement because if they were capabl...

As humans we are bound by many relationships and those relations define who we are and how we are, how our image is transformed from who we were or who we want to be. It defines the closeness and a feeling of need, need to be with each other constantly, to develop and to grow in something we always dreamed of. We're social creatures who constantly look for such bonds that will change us in a good or a bad way and such bonds are often referred to attachments. Attachment, a feeling of being close to someone who makes you feel complete in some or the other way, in a way that maybe you can't express it. These attachments build on to become so strong that each and everyday it makes you realise that how badly you need that person in your life because that person has the potential to change you and your way of thinking. So addictive right? Think about the last time when you were so attached to a person that you were likely to fall apart just with the thought that what would you do...

Sometimes we're in such a situation that we aren't sure if we'll be able to fix the problem or even find a solution without any messy outcomes. We keep asking ourselves that is it okay to do this? Is it okay to let go of what has happened? Is it okay to move on from certain things that aren't appealing to us anymore? We keep over analysing our decisions and question ourselves because the lack of faith in ourselves lingers around and it makes it difficult to even make a decision so we seek for help in our friends and close ones. But we're still not satisfied with their feedback and sometimes they end up giving us the same advise which we first thought of but were hesitant enough to imply it. Why the self doubt? Why the lack of confidence? You are a strong, independent person and you are capable enough to decide for yourself and make your own decisions. So why do you keep questioning yourself? It's totally fine to be imperfect because no one was born perfect, ...

No matter how hard we try we end up hurting our close ones even though we didn't mean to. And trust me the damage done is not repairable at times because they think that you're just like everyone else who ends up hurting them. That's not the truth, trust me. Everyone is going through some or the other shit in their lives and just because they don't talk about their issues with you that doesn't mean they are the most stress free humans on earth. They just don't know how to cope with their situations when it gets way beyond their basic limit but they do try hard. We often mistake their frustration and anger for something that we might have done and they chose to be pissed at us for that. It's not always the same thing, they find it hard to deal with it because they do not wanna bother you with their own stuff because they know that it's not gonna go away just like that. The process takes a hell lot of time because we all know that dealing with our own i...

It's hard to wake up everyday and feel so empty, It's hard to deal with your inner thoughts that compel you to end your misery. You know you are struggling to get through the days because you feel that what is the point of being alive and what good your presence does to people. Everyone has their own existential crisis and the thing is that some try and get through it and others keep struggling with it because of constant criticism by the people around them. Their thoughts play a major role in messing things up because they are quite compelling, the inner voice keeps telling you to give up because it's no use of trying to make it work. You are not weak by any chance but the circumstances don't fall in your favour and you find them against you all the time. You wake up with sleepless eyes, your eyes speak a lot about your battle with your self and your mind is just uncontrollable at times. You feel that it's suffocating you and how are you gonna make it out alive?...

There is this one thing in my head that I just can't seem to understand and that is why do we need to set priorities? Isn't everything important to us? I believe it is because everything is so interrelated that even if we ignore one thing the next thing will be affected automatically. We might not notice this right now but slowly as we move ahead with other things we realize the mess we made. I do not speak for everyone because everyone has their own opinion and a different point of view on everything and neither I will judge anyone irrespective of what any of you think of me. I am just a regular woman who has tons of questions and one heck of a messed up life and is looking for some answers so maybe some of you might help me out on this one. I do not know how many of you will actually take their time and read it but I'm sure some of you will definitely help me out because honestly a few things are relatable so there should be some answers to it. So back to the question...

It's been a few months now since I'm all clean, clean from the mess I was in when you were around and I'm glad that you aren't here anymore because I have learnt to live my life all over again. You were the person who was once my everything, my home which made me feel like I belong there and I never wanted to leave. Things were going smoothly and the first few months were so blissful that I felt like you were really the one for me so I started dreaming of spending the rest of my life with you. You were the perfect guy a girl could ever ask and I was afraid that I might lose you because I was madly in love with you that made me so blind that I couldn't see any of your flaws and that was my biggest mistake. Slowly as each day that passes by, you started acting differently like you were a new person to me and I didn't see what was coming my way. You started pushing me to such extents where I questioned myself, my love for you and most importantly I questioned m...

We often come across people who were once our close friends but now they don't even talk to us that often, nothing is same anymore like before and you start to wonder what went wrong, you start questioning yourself if you made any mistake or was it something else that triggered them to stay away from you. So many questions and it starts making you feel so low because they won't tell you, they will just stay aloof and expect you to understand. But honestly if you ask me then I can say that unless if the person does not open upto you about what is bothering them then there is no way you can find out, give them their privacy for a while. If they feel that they can trust you enough then there is chance that they will give you a little insight about their issue and expect you to give your take on that situation. There is one thing you need to do, that is never ever judge them for what they are about to do or they might be thinking to do because you never know that it might ...

We all grew up by learning from our parents that we need to be strong, to be independent enough to do something for ourselves. But as we grow  up, we develop emotions and feelings that sometimes it's difficult to handle. So we decide to suppress those emotions because we think it will interfere with our daily lives and we are too busy to even think about it. We feel that expressing the way we feel will get us into trouble or we might lose people. But let me tell you something, if something is bothering you or keeping you away from being happy again then trust me keeping your emotions inside is gonna do you no good! Say it! To whomever it relates to or write it down and give it to that person so that you can save yourself from the awkward moment. If you think that the person will not be the same anymore or will stop communicating with you then trust me that person does not value your emotions or you and does not understand you. he or she has no right to point fingers at you by an...