Is Validation Really Important?

The moment when we start having self doubt, we begin to lose our self esteem. Nothing seems right because we don't even know what to do anymore. We can't trust our instincts and keep over thinking the entire time as to why it is happening.

It is really my fault? Even if it ain't, we tend to take the blame on ourselves. Keep apologizing for every damn thing you ever did or didn't do. You can't go without apologizing more than twice in a day.

It makes you feel really crappy on the inside because you aren't able to express how things have made you feel lately. Is there something really wrong with me? I keep asking myself all the damn time.

Validation is nothing but a way of assurance that you understand the other person's feelings. You try to seek validation every now and then just because you don't trust yourself anymore. You need a person who can listen to you without being judgemental.

When you're currently in a phase where you are petrified of even making a decision for yourself. You keep asking your loved ones for advice on whether it's the right thing to do or not.

Validation makes relationship more strong but it doesn't mean you agree or disagree with the opposite person. It's a way of guiding through the most difficult times.

Yes validation matters more than anything, assurance matters that it's going to be okay. If not today then tomorrow or maybe someday. But you gotta hold on till the time passes by.

You've made it this far, kid.

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